Fight the norm.

That being said, I’m also pretty disgusted in myself being overweight/obese, but I don’t need some goddamn hate mongerer degrading me and abusing me. What a load of shit this site is and I can’t wait to do something about it.

People will freely offer unsolicited weight loss advice. But do people freely offer hygiene tips to people who are in need? Nope, they actually don’t know how to handle it. They consult with Human Resources about how to break it to a co-worker that they should wear deodorant, because no one wants to make anyone feel that badly about themselves. But no one has a problem telling fat people “you have such a pretty face, if only you would lose weight”. “Oh, you’re such a nice guy, if only you would use a little mouthwash, I’d have a hundred girls I’d fix you up with!”

(Actually, it’s from an older blog than that, but apparently it warrants periodic renewal.)

My point is, it has nothing to do with changeability. It has to do with oppression, and, ultimately, misogyny. Even when it’s men.

Believe it or not, there are many people who will never be thin, and while they may alter themselves in the short term, they’ll never be that way for the long term, they’ll have erratic phases, but they won’t be that ‘thin’ type of individual that a gym will enable them to be in the short term if they cannot maintain it.

The discrimination is similar. I don’t think discrimination on color is purely based on color, it’s based on other concepts behind that more so than the color, and similar perceptions come to light with body type.

It may be forthright to say this, but there are many white supremacist groups that don’t base their racism on color, they use this to imply other things like intellectual inferiority, ‘sub human’ aspects, and some even go to the point so as to illustrate that people of a different color (other than ‘white’) are another species altogether, and it’s not the color, it’s the concept of inferiority that propels these hate groups, and it’s almost identical where body type is concerned. If obesity, or even a few extra pounds could be eliminated by diet and exercise, you think that Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig and other groups would still be around? But they’re still around, and they’ve been around for decades. Why?

Because their diets will never work. Life, its demands, and it’s unpredictable elements may prevent people from spending the bulk of their leisure time in the gym to be thin. Some people do have lives, and sure, they may not be able to put in the time to be rake thin, but if they’re fit, that matters more than how lean they are.

So, the entire argument about fat hatred, may not be related to ‘color’, then again racism isn’t purely related to color. They both involve the concept of social, personal and interpersonal inferiority. These types of thoughts or agendas are targeted to make people hate themselves and feel out of place. How different is that to racism? It’s not that much different. Hardly different.

Sexism is about inferiority, so is classism, so is chauvinism, and so is discrimation based on physical appearance or physical disabilities, and I don’t see how these differ from racism.

I’m not sure what it is, but many people somehow think that racism is all about color, and I’ve probably offended you in saying that, but I don’t think of it as being purely based on color. Sure, it’s part of it, but not all of it.

Sure a person’s skin colour can’t be changed, but there are many who can’t change their body types either. I know I’ll never reach a size 0, no matter how many times I go to the gym, because I’ve done it, and I couldn’t reach that far, sure I decreased, but my bone structure didn’t let me go that far, and if a person judges me (the way they look at me, their attitude, if they frown, avoid sitting next to me on the bus, etc) then that’s almost identical to racism.

Karen, Jen, Brookie and Anastasia: Thanks for joining the conversation and being positive. In particular I love that actually went so far as to thank her. Way to go babe! Swing those big hips and don’t let anybody bring you down.

Yesterday (in a newspaper here) I read that Nicole Ritchie was throwing a party to promote the Tsubi fashion label (an Australian fashion label) in the states, and she stipulated that no female guests should be over 100 pounds in weight, and I thought how sad, and what a reflection of what these malnourished celebrities are (malnourished of body and mind).

While I do think that morbid obesity, the type that prevents people from walking, or getting out of bed, isn’t an ideal state for health factors, that doesn’t automatically mean that these people are inferior, they have different coping mechanism, but these other people who carp on, are basically picking on those who carry the few extra, who live full lives, and who go about their day as any other person does, and it does make me angry because a person can (depending on their physical and metabolic rate) carry an extra five, ten or fifteen pounds, and then more, after trying and being unable (for any reason, but diets never work anyway because the basal metabolic rate will try to return to its baseline), and this person will be targeted by those who have no real semblance of a life. A person cannot have a life if they are creating internet campaigns targeting people, based on encouraging vilification based on superficial things.

Thank GOODNESS Ms. Roth can’t fit in my size 18 jeans, because she wouldn’t have what it takes physically OR spiritually, to fill those bad boys out!! I have to THANK her, actually, for helping me RE-COMMIT to being as positive as I can at every opportunity about size acceptance, and the REFUSAL TO BELIEVE that ANYONE who says anything as RIDICULOUS as Ms. Roth has a valid point.

Here Meme, honey, let me make you a sandwich, sounds like you NEED one..